So, last time, I talked about acknowledging your feelings and then letting them go. That’s just the start of dealing with disappointment.
Yes, we have to let ourselves feel the feels. However, letting go of the feelings doesn’t really fix the situation.
I should know. I have a bad habit of “letting go”. In reality, what I actually do is bury the negative feelings deep where I can’t feel them anymore.
For now.
Because you know those feelings aren’t going to stay hidden no matter how deep we bury them.
Disappointment is one of those things that gets bigger and bigger over time until the tiniest thing sets us off.
So what can we do?
Once we’ve admitted to ourselves that we ARE disappointed and think through WHY we feel that way, it’s time to address the situation.
I can’t tell you exactly how to address your situation, because your story is different from mine. What I can say is that most of my disappointments come from unmet (and unreasonable) expectations.
I behave a certain way and I expect others to act in the same way. One of the biggest things I’ve had to learn is accepting people as they are and not how I believe they should be.
Maybe this is something you deal with too.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t have expectations at all. You deserve to be respected and loved.
However, there are certain things that we CAN compromise on when it comes to our expectations of other people.
Not every person is going to cross every “t” or dot every “i”. It may drive me a little batty, but can they still get their point across and do something well?
On a different, though related topic, I challenge you to read about the spoon theory. It was eye-opening for me. Maybe it will help you in your journey.
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